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Honest, actionable, powerful.
Speaking to people with that voice has stunned folks for most of my life. It's also endeared me to people who are serious about communicating honestly.
I wouldn't want to be anything else.
Proudly #ActuallyAutistic
@KatyElphinstone As someone who is not autistic, I wish I'd had an autistic person to tell me these things as a kid.
@KatyElphinstone “People will lie to you about honesty.”
“They what?”
“They’ll tell you to be honest, that they’re ready for it and won’t be upset, and then they’ll get upset when you’re honest.”
“That’s understandable if they don’t like your answer.”
“…and then they’ll be angry at you and expect you to make them feel better.”
“Hey, wait a sec-“
“But they won’t tell you that that’s why they’re upset, and they’ll expect you to know it’s your job to make them happier.”
“THAT’S BULL!”
“Yup.”
Repeating for self-reminder: "So you're gonna get bullied no matter what..."
That's the part that gets forgotten. As if there's something that changes with a new day, a long-term relationship/employment situation, a different environment, or -- especially -- people who say they understand. Then when the toxicity smacks one down again...the reminder "no matter what" just sucks.
@KatyElphinstone My hated variation on the first part is "Just let it go". That is very much wishful thinking in my #actuallyautistic experience. Educating NT people, especially older family members is exhausting