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The #grief that emerges in the aftermath of a #narcissisticRelationship falls under the umbrella of "disenfranchised grief". That is grief which isn't socially acknowledged as reasonable.

The sad reality is that navigating the grief of losing a relationship with a #narcissistic partner is really fucking difficult.

You're grieving a person that never existed. They were a facade produced by a psychological predator to devour you whole. This means you're grieving a person that is still alive while simultaneously never having existed. This is exacerbated when you are unable to go no contact and have to regularly face your abuser.

If you're wrestling with this: you have all my empathy. What helps me is understanding that I'm not really grieving the loss of the relationship but I'm grieving the loss of possibility and hope. I thought I found someone who shared my visions for a good life. I did not. I'm grieving the loss of that. Not the loss of my abuser.

You wanna pay back the #narcissist in your life? The biggest punishment for a narcissist is being ignored. Do not pay them attention of any kind. Don't let their reality impact yours or only as minimally as possible.

In the world of a narcissist only their reality matters. Your reality is by definition wrong and nothing you do can change that. Their actions are by definition just and good. But what if they do something that's clearly cruel and harmful?

Remember the narcissistic prayer? That. They change their reality so that their actions are now again just and good. And if that means that they have to throw you under the bus they'll not hesitate to do so. They will literally construct false realities in which you are the most vile human being to have ever walked the earth, all in a (largely unconscious!) effort to turn them into a victim who didn't have another choice but to harm you deeply.

Don't let their reality become your reality. Ignore them.

Narcissism can be identified in children as young as seven, and these children tend to be seen as leaders by others, particularly by other children with low self-esteem. But when put to the test, the narcissistic children do not actually perform better as leaders.

scientificamerican.com/article

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Photo illustration, wooden pawn figures gathered around a red pawn figure standing on a pedestal. One wooden pawn figure is overturned laying on the floor.
Scientific AmericanWhy Narcissists Emerge as Leaders Even in ChildhoodMany children choose to follow peers with more narcissistic tendencies—and self-esteem may be part of the complex power dynamics involved
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@mayintoronto @JuliusGoat

Brilliant article on bullies like Trump. This same principle applies to their 'jokes.' Sociopaths don't really joke, so any time they appear to be, they're actually testing.

"bullies tend to operate on a sliding scale of permission. They start by pretending to do a thing to see how pretending goes for them before actually doing it, and if they don’t get opposed for issuing threats, then they understand that to be permission"

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@truls46 : "I think he genuinely believes what he is saying."

Nope. Not a chance.

60min
Tony Schwartz: The Truth About Trump | Oxford Union Q&A [in late October 2016]
youtube.com/watch?v=qxF_CDDJ0YI

Trump admitting he lost (Short): youtube.com/shorts/uD5ArsFyI7U
Trump: "We lost by just a little bit, just a little bit"

Narcissists are aware they are lying (Short)
youtube.com/shorts/DiPkpP3OUXk

#Narcissism #Lies #Dysfunctions #Psychology #Pathology #Trump

@randahl

The #MuslimWorld declares #Fatwa and #Jihad against the #StateOfIsrael.
#GifsArtidote: watch children, adults and governments voice their protest about the #Palestinian occupation and #genocide by #Israel. All of them call for a global boycott of #US companies and for all humans to stand up and fight against #authoritarianism and my message is:

It only takes 3% of citizens in any country to rise up and topple an authoritarian regime.

#capitalism causes #NarcissisticBehaviour and it's now a global pandemic driven by #FascistLeaders not only like those in #US #israel #india #russia #hungary #elsalvador etc. but also in multi-national corporations and institions. the whole human organisational system is now infected from top to bottom.

The statistics for extreme cases like elon and Don are are only around 3% of de population, but as #psychology has been severely underfunded academically, bc it's undermining authority by the state, I wonder how high that percentage is now. and narcissists are pro's in manipulation, gaslighting and coercive control. Their motto: deny, divert and deceive.

Knowledge about the psychological processes of narcissists will prove one of the most powerful weapons citizens will have, to defend yourself individually, and collectively.

my practical suggestion: #unite #educate #organise #resist. learn about #anarchism and the #psychology of #narcissism and how to counter it, #DirectAction, #CommunitySafety and #DefenceTechniques. #KnowledgeIsPower #press #BreakingNews #news
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Processing #narcissisticAbuse requires you to upheave your entire world. It requires you to recontextualize the entire relationship you had with the person who abused you. It requires looking at things again and realizing that this situation was in fact abusive. That making you feel confusion, hurt, sadness, and especially fear, were not a mistake but the intention.

You need to do all that while grieving the loss of the person you thought you loved. They were never real. And I really mean never. They were a fabrication created by a predator that exploited your psychological weaknesses to devour you like a lion.

This will sound crass to some of you. Many will think I'm exaggerating. But those of you who survived narcissistic abuse know: what I wrote doesn't even come close to capturing the horror of realizing that the person you loved never loved you back but instead only sought to dominate and exploit you as a source of narcissistic supply.

What a despicable shitshow… a dictator on a golden throne … vile and evil.
His servant lying along with his moods al the way.

He will not uphold to the law, he will not leave, he is here to stay. We are witnessing the end of democracy here…

Wake up now USA, before it is too late.

#uspol #trump #narcissism #fascism #democracy

nytimes.com/2025/04/14/us/poli

President Trump with President Nayib Bukele of El Salvador in the Oval Office on Monday.
The New York Times · As Trump Makes His Case, He Turns to the Oval Office Set PieceBy Shawn McCreesh